“I really only love God as much as I love the person I love the least through compassion”
Our compassion is measured by how we treat those we find hardest to love.
Sometimes we think that spirituality is something that happens only in quiet moments of prayer or while looking up at a beautiful sunset. We imagine our connection to the divine is found in the lofty, peaceful places. But Dorothy Day offers us a much more grounded and challenging perspective. She suggests that our capacity to love the infinite is directly tied to how we treat the people right in front of us, especially those who are difficult to like, those who have hurt us, or those who seem completely different from our own values. It is a beautiful, humbling reminder that compassion isn't a feeling we hold in isolation, but a bridge we build toward others.
In our everyday lives, this idea shows up in the small, friction-filled moments. It is easy to be kind to a dear friend or a supportive partner, but the true test of our heart comes when we encounter the person who cuts us off in traffic, the coworker who takes credit for our work, or the neighbor who is perpetually grumpy. It is easy to feel a sense of divine peace when everything is going well, but that peace feels much more profound when we extend a hand of empathy to someone who hasn't necessarily earned it. This is where our true character and our capacity for deep, transformative love are truly forged.
I remember a time when I was feeling particularly frustrated with a person in my community who always seemed to be causing conflict. I found myself withdrawing and closing my heart, thinking that my spiritual practice was still intact because I was being peaceful in my own bubble. But then I realized that by excluding that person from my empathy, I was actually shrinking my own capacity for love. I had to learn to look past their outward behavior to see the human struggle underneath. It wasn't about suddenly becoming best friends, but about choosing to see them with a sense of shared humanity and compassion.
As you go through your week, I want to gently invite you to look for that one person who is hard to love. You don't have to force a grand gesture of affection, but perhaps you can start with a small moment of understanding. When you feel that spark of compassion for the person you find most difficult, take a moment to recognize that you are expanding your own soul. By opening your heart to the least loved, you are actually opening yourself up to a much deeper, more authentic connection to the world and to the divine love that surrounds us all.
