Have you ever felt that restless, fluttering sensation in your chest when you are waiting for news? Maybe it is a job offer, a text back from someone special, or even just the results of a medical test. It is so easy to fall into the trap of checking our phones every two minutes or pacing the floor, convinced that our anxiety might somehow change the result. But Gabby Bernstein reminds us of a beautiful truth: those who are certain of the outcome can afford to wait without anxiety. This isn't about being naive or ignoring reality; it is about cultivating a deep, quiet trust in the unfolding of our lives.
When we live in a state of constant worry, we are essentially telling ourselves that we don't believe things will work out. We treat the waiting period like a battleground rather than a bridge. In our everyday lives, this often manifests as a loss of presence. We are so focused on the 'what if' of the future that we completely miss the 'what is' of the present. We forget to taste our coffee, to feel the sun on our skin, or to laugh with our friends because our minds are busy rehearsing every possible disaster.
I remember a time when I was waiting for a big project to be approved. I spent weeks in a state of total dread, unable to focus on anything else. I was convinced that if I stopped worrying, I would somehow let my guard down and the bad outcome would happen. I was exhausted, and honestly, my productivity plummeted. It wasn't until I decided to practice 'certainty'—believing that whatever the result, I would be okay and I would handle it—that the weight finally lifted. I started focusing on my gardening again, finding peace in the slow growth of my flowers, and suddenly, the waiting felt less like a prison and more like a pause.
Learning to wait with ease is a skill that we can practice every single day. It starts with a small shift in perspective. When you feel that familiar tug of anxiety, try to breathe through it and remind yourself that the outcome is already in motion. You don't need to carry the burden of the result; you only need to carry the peace of your present moment. Trust that the universe has a way of aligning things, even when the path looks blurry.
Today, I want to encourage you to find one area of your life where you have been waiting anxiously. Can you try, just for an hour, to let go of the need to control the finish line? Take a deep breath, trust in your strength, and allow yourself the grace to simply exist while the world does its work.