When we think about strength, we often picture someone weathering a massive storm or facing a sudden tragedy. It is easy to admire the courage it takes to endure hardship, as adversity forces us to dig deep and find our survival instincts. But Abraham Lincoln’s words remind us that true character isn't found in how we handle the weight of the world, but in how we treat others when we finally have the upper hand. Power acts like a magnifying glass, enlarging the traits that were already hiding quietly within our hearts.
In our everyday lives, power doesn't always look like a throne or a high-ranking title. Often, it shows up in much smaller, more subtle ways. It is the authority a manager has over a team's schedule, the influence a parent has over a child's confidence, or even the subtle control we hold in a friendship. When we are in a position to make decisions that affect others, the temptation to prioritize our own convenience over someone else's well-being can be incredibly strong. This is where the real test happens, far away from the spotlight of struggle.
I remember watching a situation once involving a group of friends working on a community project. One person had been appointed the leader, and for the first few weeks, they were wonderful, helping everyone through the difficult tasks. But as the project succeeded and this person gained more influence and praise, their behavior shifted. They began to dismiss others' ideas and take sole credit for the wins. The adversity of the hard work was gone, replaced by the intoxicating glow of success, and in that glow, their true, less-than-kind character became visible to everyone.
It can be a bit scary to realize that our true selves are revealed in moments of ease rather than moments of struggle. It makes me wonder, as I sit here reflecting with you, how I handle the small bits of influence I hold in my own life. Are we using our voices to lift others up, or are we using them to assert our own importance? It is a heavy question, but a beautiful one to ponder.
As you move through your week, I want to gently encourage you to look at the moments when things are going well. When you find yourself in a position of strength or influence, take a breath and check in with your heart. Use your power to be a source of kindness and a builder of others, ensuring that your character remains as beautiful in the sunlight as it is in the shadows.